7 Useful Beliefs You Can Adopt Today to Immediately Start Being Less Judgmental

7 useful ideas you can start believing today to be less judgmental. ~ ZenWahm.com

Do you find it hard to tolerate stupid people? Do you compare yourself to the other moms/bloggers/runners/dieters on Facebook only to find you’re beating yourself up or tearing them down to make yourself feel better? This is the face of judgment. Everyone is judgmental, you and even me. It’s hard not to be judgmental,  it’s built right into the fabric of our society, but there are ways to stop being judgmental. The problem with being judgmental … Continue reading

The One Thing I Learned to Stop Yelling


Throughout Hanna’s life I’ve always tried to remember to direct her towards want I want her to do, instead of away from what I don’t want her to do. Walking feet… instead of don’t run. Lower your voice… instead of stop yelling. Bottoms on the couch… instead of don’t stand. Because I know, what we focus on grows, the mind doesn’t hear “don’t”. It was a little funny when I stopped for a moment and … Continue reading

A Little Lovin Changes Everything


I’m not a fan of McDonald’s. I mean, everyone knows a “healthy eating” mom, who wants to do right by her family’s health doesn’t eat at McDonald’s. And what would people think if they saw me eating there?  But, you know what, every once in a while I crave an Egg McMuffin. Especially, it seems, right before my massage, so my stomach doesn’t growl, and I usually have 30 minutes to kill. Yesterday happened to … Continue reading

4 Simple Ways to Just Open Your Hand

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The steering wheel My little girl’s hand My breath Hurt feelings My opinions My beliefs Grudges Disappointments Misunderstandings Resentments These are all things I sometimes hold on to, too tightly. The more I pay attention to how I feel the more I notice when things are just a little off. With a little digging I usually see the “off feeling” stems from holding on too tightly. I was lamenting this morning, about letting go. How … Continue reading

Snapping Pictures Of The Moment is Not You In The Moment

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Every two years Cirque Du Soleil brings their touring show to our town. Every two years my mom get us tickets as one of my Christmas gifts. It’s truly, my favorite gift. There’s a magic about Cirque, and for 2 hours I’m transfixed and transported to another place and time, and completely in the moment. Last night we were sitting 4 rows off the floor, waiting for the show to begin, chatting with each other, … Continue reading

Manifesto for Life

manifesto for life

Manifesto for Life Grow ~ Dig in, deeply. Find what lies in the shadow. Bring it to the light. Face your fears, your past, your future, your dreams with open eyes and an open heart. Shine ~ There is only one you. The world needs you have to share. Be you. Out loud. Always. Connect ~ There are others on your path. Find them. Connect. There is comfort and clarity in this unity. Being a writer, a thinker, a thought provoker … Continue reading

How to Love Yourself Through New Year’s Resolutions

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It went on for almost 2 hours. There was cajoling, begging, pleading, some pushing and even a little bullying, sad to say. It went a little something like this, the conversation in my head. “You said you wanted to work out.” “Yeah, I do. I want to feel sexy, and strong and healthy.” “Then let’s go.” “Yeah, but, I don’t want to be yelled at while I’m working out. I don’t want to be made to feel … Continue reading

How to Be Compassionate When You’re Ready to Lay the Smack Down

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It was the perfect storm. In-laws, being out of town, off schedule, and fruit smoothies at 9 o’clock at night. I was on edge, feeling anxious, wanting, to say no, stick to our schedule, stay with what works, and not doing it for fear of being the “bad guy”, yet again. The downward spiral began to spiral. When we finally got pajamas on… 3 hours later than it would have been at home, hopped up … Continue reading

How to Become the Person You Want to Be (in one simple step)

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I used to be a smoker. When I decided to have children I knew I had to quit. I’d tried multiple times to quit, all unsuccessfully. Finally, I decided to invest the money and go to a hypnotherapist. After the first appointment I never smoked again, even though she said I could smoke until I came back for my follow up. Why did this work when all other attempts had failed? Because she changed my … Continue reading

Can’t Stand that Creepy Elf? Here’s a Kinder Alternative

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Our Elf on the Shelf, Ruby, showed up a couple years ago. I was never really keen on the idea, in fact, I down right dreaded it. I’m not sure what provoked me to buy the dang thing, other than the self imposed pressure to “be a good mom”. Each year Ruby showed up later, and later. She’d make her appearance as late as possible, showing up just before Christmas. This year, we’ve tackled some big things in … Continue reading