How to be a good mom? It’s a completely loaded question, because everyone’s version of what being a good mom looks like is different. When I think about being a good mom, I want to be patient, and kind, and not yell. I want to be happy to spend time with my kiddo. I want to enjoy her and feel good about myself and the parenting I’m doing.
On many days, (let’s be honest… years) this just isn’t the case. I don’t feel like a good mom. I lose my patience. I lose my temper. I get to the end of the day I’m overwhelmed and I just want her to go to bed… without arguing about it.
I’ve read about a million parenting books in my quest to learn how to be a good mom. There have been a couple I’ve found really helpful. There are dozens that just made me feel worse. I think the ones that made me feel better were the ones that weren’t trying to make my kiddo “be a good kid”… but were helping me learn to better control my emotions, my reactions, and my behavior. Because, really, that’s the only thing I do have control over. Trying to make her change is a fruitless proposition, and only leads to me feeling worse about my parenting because why the hell can’t I make her do what I want her to do?! dammit. (um… because it literally does.not.work.that.way.)
The more I’ve traveled down this Zen Wahm path, the more I’ve stuck with my meditation and mindfulness practices the more I’ve been able to be more the mom I’d always hoped I’d be. I got pretty excited when I saw a facebook friend of mine was publishing a new book. It’s called Parenting in the Present Moment. It seemed to tie in perfectly with the path I’m walking in my parenting, and I couldn’t wait to get my hands on it. I was not disappointed. In fact, in only took 6 pages for me to completely fall in love with the book.
Let me tell you what happened, my favorite part, and how it’s helping me learn how to be a good mom (over and over and over again).
How do you feel now? Do you feel as relieved as I do? Are you breathing a huge sigh of relief? I sure hope so! If you’re ready to grab a copy of Parenting in the Present Moment go ahead and get it here on Amazon. I am a lover of kindle, but I really suggest you get this one in real book form… you’ll find yourself wanting to go digging back and forth, and using it as a reference, which I find very difficult to do on my kindle.
I’d love to hear what you think of the book and the video… share your thoughts in the comments.