4 Simple Ways to Just Open Your Hand

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The steering wheel My little girl’s hand My breath Hurt feelings My opinions My beliefs Grudges Disappointments Misunderstandings Resentments These are all things I sometimes hold on to, too tightly. The more I pay attention to how I feel the more I notice when things are just a little off. With a little digging I usually see the “off feeling” stems from holding on too tightly. I was lamenting this morning, about letting go. How … Continue reading

Snapping Pictures Of The Moment is Not You In The Moment

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Every two years Cirque Du Soleil brings their touring show to our town. Every two years my mom get us tickets as one of my Christmas gifts. It’s truly, my favorite gift. There’s a magic about Cirque, and for 2 hours I’m transfixed and transported to another place and time, and completely in the moment. Last night we were sitting 4 rows off the floor, waiting for the show to begin, chatting with each other, … Continue reading

How to Stay Calm In a Crazy World

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I have tried so many things in an effort to learn how to stay calm. I have always wanted to be one of those people who seems to just take things in stride, who is even keeled no matter what’s going on around them. I have always wanted equanimity in my life. But it was elusive. I’d find myself flustered at best, and flying off the handle at worst. I found myself frustrated that people … Continue reading

I Hate Christmas. How to Survive the Holidays (and Maybe Even Enjoy Them)

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I hate the dentist. Like Phobia hate. There have been times when I’ve scheduled a procedure, driven to the dentist, parked the car. Freaked out and left. When my husband and I decided to start thinking about trying to have a baby, he insisted, before we started trying, I had to go to the dentist and make sure my teeth were in the best possible shape. (having a baby can be rough on your teeth) … Continue reading

How to Be a Good Mom

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How to be a good mom? It’s a completely loaded question, because everyone’s version of what being a good mom looks like is different. When I think about being a good mom, I want to be patient, and kind, and not yell. I want to be happy to spend time with my kiddo. I want to enjoy her and feel good about myself and the parenting I’m doing. On many days, (let’s be honest… years) … Continue reading